Newly engaged couples have a lot of exciting things to look forward to. After all, once you get engaged, the next step is marriage. Right?
Wrong! For some couples, getting engaged is a simple, blissful event. Couples that have been together for a long period of time may already consider themselves in a state of pre-engagement, that simply becomes official after the presentation of the ring. For others, regardless of their time spent in the relationship, newly engaged couples may feel excited and overwhelmed with everything that they believe comes with the ring. Here is some advice that can help prevent you from getting overwhelmed and maintain the joy of your new status.
Don’t rush into the wedding planning. Often, a groom-to-be has striven to plan a perfect proposal. They might have spent months looking for the perfect ring, or selecting a location. Take some time to enjoy their endeavor, celebrate each other, and give him a break from planning another major life event. It may be exciting to jump into the wedding planning stages, but enjoying your engagement should be at the top of your list of to-do’s for at least a few weeks.
Continue going on dates. Romance and dates don’t end on the day you get your ring, or after you get married. Don’t allow yourself or your soon-to-be spouse to get used to a dateless life together. Instead, take turns planning special night for each other. Make an effort to establish a consistent date night that you can both count on. This will give you the opportunity to have quality time together away from jobs and other responsibilities. Getting into this routine will set a precedent throughout marriage and will keep your marriage joyful.
Reduce your social media influence. The use of social media has skyrocketed, and is now a major way to document life events. However, it is recommended to reduce your social media posts during the wedding planning process. By doing this, you can prevent self-invited guests (which can cause a lot of unwanted wedding drama) and unsolicited advice.
Plan the wedding together. Some couples believe that the bride and the mothers should be the only one tasked with the wedding planning. However, wedding planning is one of the most stressful things that will be done in your relationship! In fact, the stress of planning can cause problems between couples if there is not cooperation. Remember that the day is for both of you, and the most important people that should be making the decisions are the bride and groom. Encourage others to get involved, but remember that the final decisions need to be made jointly by the couple.
Take a premarital course. Committing yourself to marriage is the most significant action you can take as a couple. Before you tie the knot, it’s important to understand your partner completely. Make sure you are both aware of what your partner hopes to gain from marriage, their religious views, and how you anticipate spending your future together. Plus, doing this will give you a break from the intense wedding planning process and offer you both the chance to relax and talk openly with each other.