This is the time. This the end-of-the-year, beginning-of-a-New-Year time when people reflect on their past and their future. They make resolutions with new goals, ambitions and directions for a new year and for their future. Often we consider these to be personal/individual. However, we invite you to consider including New Year’s relationship resolutions too. These would be new goals, ambitions and directions for your relationship and for your marriage. Doing this can help you keep your relationship from stagnating as it keeps you both moving forward with new ideas and renewed energies directed within your relationship. Whether you are engaged and getting married soon, or been married for many years, this is a great time to sit down together and plan next year’s ideas for relationship adjustments or improvements as well as plan for new fun and exciting experiences you can share together. You can also use this time to reflect back in general on your shared past and envisioned future to improve emotional intimacy and strengthen your love bond.
Relationship tune-up plus
Essentially you can use this time of year to do a relationship check-up and tune up- it’s like giving it a boost to boot! Sometimes it may seem awkward or you may feel like “it never seems to be the right time” to discuss such topics with your partner. But, this is the time of year when it’s not only appropriate, it’s expected for you to set New Year’s resolutions. So, it’s the right time, without awkwardness, for you both to share your views and discuss ideas for your New Year together!
Need some conversation starters? Have no clue about what you can adjust or improve in your relationship? Don’t know what new fun or exciting experiences you can have together? Here are some ideas that may directly apply to you or that can inspire you to think of additional ideas for your own relationship.
New goals, adjustments, and improvements in the relationship
- Changes with chores for one, the other, or both of you
- Changes with physical expressions of love and/or sexual activities – type/frequency/initiation
- Changes with time spent together and/or apart/time management
- Changes with routines
- Changes with child rearing
- Changes with financial management/bills/what big ticket items/expenses to save for
- Changes with how you treat each other and encourage each other/what, when, how
- Changes with an addiction that affects your relationship
New fun or exciting experiences together
- Try a new sport together/Take newbie lessons
- Decide on a local attraction you both like and get a yearly membership there (some places also offer extra perks like reciprocal discounted or free privileges to other similar type places for the year as well, like other museums or zoos or gardens)
- Go to one of your “someday I want to go” places so you can cross one more thing off the list
- Join a health club and exercise together
- Learn to play the same or different instruments, then jam/play together for fun, or entertain your friends and family
- Plan a day trip to explore a new-to-you town or city
- Plan a Valentine’s day experience
- Plan a visit to far away family members or friends you’re longing to see again
- Plan on a monthly fun activity you want to regularly participate in (card game, bowling, biking, sailing, book club?)
Don’t feel like you have to make all sorts of changes and plans. Discussing and setting just a few New Year’s relationship resolutions together each year can be enough to strengthen and grow your relationship. Anything you both agree to and feel excited about will re-invigorate your relationship as you begin to realize more fun, more respect, and a deeper love connection with one another.
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